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Wherever You Go, There You Are

Wherever You Go, There You Are
May 27, 2020 Torrey Park

“Guess what? When it comes right down to it, wherever you go, there you are. Whatever you wind up doing, that’s what you’ve wound up doing. Whatever you are thinking right now, that’s what’s on your mind. Whatever has happened to you, it has already happened. The important question is, how are you going to handle it? In other words, “Now what?”
― Jon Kabat-Zinn, Wherever You Go, There You Are

Think of this present moment as a mirror. A mirror reflecting the past and the future. You have to understand and accept this reflection of yourself in this mirror. You have to be aware of this present moment in all its depth and fullness. Do not judge it. Just know it. See it completely and entirely. Every. Single. Detail.

The present moment exists whether you like it or not. Whether it is enjoyable or not. And even if time passes, the mirror stays still. It is always the present moment in which you find yourselves. You cannot change it, you need not judge. You can only understand and accept it. It just IS. If you can do this, only then will you know what to do next.

This practice is called “Mindfulness” and is the core of Meditation.

Unless we become “Mindful”, we may never quite be where we actually are, never quite touch the fullness of our possibilities. Instead, we lock ourselves into a personal fiction that we already know who we are, that we know where we are and where we are going, that we know what is happening – all the while remaining enshrouded in thoughts, fantasies, and impulses.

To be “Mindful” is to wake up from this constant ignorance about yourself, your surroundings, and your situation. To find your path in life, you will need to pay more attention to this present moment. It is the only time that we have in which to live, grow, feel, and change.

The work of waking up from these dreams is the work of Meditation, the systematic cultivation of wakefulness, of present-moment awareness. Meditation is simply about being yourself and knowing something about who that is. It is about coming to realize that you are on a path whether you like it or not, namely, the path that is your life. Meditation may help us see that this path we call our life has direction; that it is always unfolding, moment by moment; and that what happens now, in this moment, influences what happens next.

Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way: on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally. This kind of attention nurtures greater awareness, clarity, and acceptance of present-moment reality. It is an appreciation for the present moment and the cultivation of an intimate relationship with it through a continual attending to it with care and discernment. It is the direct opposite of taking life for granted. It has to do with waking up and seeing things as they are. In fact, the word enlightenment simply means one who has awakened to his or her own true nature.

So how does this central message apply to how you think and act with your money? We often spend money as a means to an end. Buying a new outfit (I’m so guilty of this, even during covid-19 when I hardly leave the house) or a big-ticket item like a 70″ screen tv is fun in that moment, until the credit card statement comes the following month. It won’t make your life so much better in the long-run and it doesn’t make you a better or more interesting person. Believing in those things, rather than yourself, is about reacting to negative feelings, rather than observing and projecting positive ones.

It is also a good idea to focus on what you’ve got going on for you right now–figure out what gives you joy and accept your current state of being while working toward goals for the future. It is of little use to idly wish of a future vision for yourself unless you put in the groundwork to making it happen. Invest in you.

Lastly, you know yourself better than anyone. When something isn’t working for you, your body will tell you. Be mindful of the tightened muscles and stress headaches that come from making choices that don’t serve you. Alternatively, there’s a lightness and energy inside when you’ve set and met your intentions. These are things that we should be aware of, rather than try to ignore, because it always comes out in other ways. Do yourself a favor and try to sit with your thoughts for a few moments. Notice how you feel. Notice what comes across your mind. What is it telling you? All you have to do is listen–not judge–and act accordingly.

Torrey Park, Prosperity Connection